Nobody likes making mistakes – but some people have what I would call a afraid of failure phobia! They’re so scared of making a mistake that it severely limits them in the activities they engage in, the goals they pursue.
Making mistakes is a part of life. Failing is a part of life. In fact, many of the most successful people on this world have made plenty of mistakes – more mistakes than most other people. The difference is that they weren’t afraid to take certain risks, and they wouldn’t waste their time dwelling on self-pity, crying over spilled milk, regretting what could have been if only the would have done this, or wouldn’t have done that.
So to make this very clear:
more failures (+ learning from these failures) = more success
Making a mistake doesn’t make you a failure. The only way you will end up a failure is if you don’t try to achieve your goals, or if you give up after making a mistake.
There are plenty of stories of billionaires who lost it all and ended up with millions of dollars in debt – only to come back after some years, even richer and more successful than before. Donald Trump is one of them. In Thailand there is an entrepreneur called William Heinecke – when the 1997 economic crisis hit Thailand, his companies almost went bankrupt and the only way he managed to save them was by pouring in pretty much all of his personal wealth in order to try to save them. Nowadays his companies are more successful than ever before.
Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed on an equal or greater benefit. – Napoleon Hill
Changing the way you think and feel about failure is important – and can in fact be life-changing.
Take a few moments to imagine yourself 10 or 20 or 50 years from now, looking back on a life where you have never attempted anything bold, never took a risk, always being afraid of failure. How would you feel about that? How would you feel having lived your life in fear, and never having conquered that fear?
You see, it’s completely normal to be afraid of failure. But the difference is whether you let that fear control your life, or whether you try to go for gold in spite of your fears.
And should you ever screw up something really bad, here’s a good question to ask yourself:
“What would I need to do so that in 3 years time I could look back on this event and say that this is the best thing that happened in my life?” This requires you to really shift your perspective – but in a useful way. Because with that question – if you really open yourself up to exploring it with all the creativity and wisdom which is inside your core being – you can turn every failure into a blessing in disguise – and ultimately an important step on the way to victory and success.
I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying. – Michael Jordan