Building Self Confidence
Many people never invest the time and effort into building self-confidence that it takes to become a really happy and fulfilled person in life. Yes, it’s true that in a way some people have an unfair advantage: their natural character, and their upbringing have caused them to have an innate healthy self-confidence.
It’s a different story for many other people who have to confront nagging self-doubt, low self-esteem and other inner demons day by day.
In fact, if you don’t trust your own capabilities and skills, you will sabotage yourself in everything you do. And even other people will doubt you, because you communicate doubt with your body language, your tone of voice, your choice of words and your facial expressions and gestures.
Low self-confidence levels will sabotage you in any area of your life – the relationships you have with other people, the financial rewards you will reap for your work, the respect, credit and admiration that you get for your accomplishments and so on.
That’s why building self-confidence is so important. It’s the fundament on which everything else builds upon. A healthy sense of self-confidence can make your more successful faster – no matter what it is that you pursue or want to accomplish.
You have to become a master of your own “inner game”. You can enhance your sense of self-worth and confidence with affirmations and visualization.
Affirmations and visualization can help because they can replace old “mental programming”. We human beings have a voice in our head that talks to us all the time – but often, we don’t consciously hear what that voice is saying. Yet, this voice has a profound influence on us.
If you have low self-confidence, there’s a 90% chance that your inner voice is often feeding you negative suggestions, commenting negatively on your thoughts and actions. So you want to practice to speak with a confident voice to yourself and say encouraging things: state that you believe in yourself, that you can do it, that you’re able to go after your dreams. Basically, you need to have your own little motivational speaker in your head.
Visualizations are great because they help to improve your self-image. It’s funny, but neurologists found that the brain doesn’t really differentiate between things that we imagine and things that we actually see. So if you picture yourself in your mind doing things successfully which you previously thought were impossible for you, that already can enhance your sense of confidence.
Also, make sure that you take on a confident posture. Stand tall, upright, shoulders back, relaxed but strong. Kind of like a soldier, but a bit more dignified. If you need inspiration, simply watch some movies and pick an actor or actress that looks confident to you – and then try to stand and walk and move the same way they do.
There are many more exercises like this – for example, writing down all the things that you have achieved and that you’ve succeeded in in your life. But the main disadvantage with all of this is that it takes a lot of time and repetition until you will start to notice the effects.
Unfortunately, people who doubt themselves often are not good at sticking to a goal for an extended period of time when they don’t notice any progress, so many give up on it.
That’s why hypnosis is such a powerful supporter for building self-confidence. Because it accelerates the process. Your sense of self-worth, and the confidence that you feel inside and radiate outwards, will quickly be emboldened if you use the power of hypnotic suggestions to bolster up your confidence.