Emotional insecurity is a common experience for every person. Even confidence person sometimes have moments of insecurity. But excessive insecurity is a completely different story – it’s when you doubt your own abilities, skills and self-worth.
You need to trust yourself – but insecurity can destroy this trust. Insecurity can create a negative self-image which can have limiting effects on many areas of your life. It can easily lead to social withdrawal and make you feel isolated and lonely. Some people react the opposite way to insecurity though: instead of “showing weakness”, they overcompensate by acting arrogant or aggressive. It’s true that the most tortured soul in the schoolyard is the the biggest bully.
But for most people insecurity shows directly: they feel shy and uncomfortable in social situations. They want to withdraw themselves, but these avoidance behaviors are never really helpful, and can in fact make your emotional insecurity worse.
Insecurity in itself isn’t really bad. The only thing that’s bad about it is when it gets so overwhelming that you can’t act powerfully anymore.
This is a very important distinction to make: it’s not insecurity itself that has a negative effect on our body. It’s how insecurity makes us think and act – and that is something we can influence.
The Upside Of Emotional Insecurity
There are some people you wouldn’t expect it from. Think for example of three-time Super Bowl winner Tom Brady, quarterback of the New England Patriots. In an interview with the Washington Post he said that insecurity is the reason for his success. “I guess I always feel there’s someone hunting me down, someone right on my footsteps”. ((Could insecurity be the secret to CEOs’ success? USA Today 1/31/2007)).
Actor Meryl Steep has also publicly confessed to being insecure too. Think about that: a woman who has earned many millions of dollars as an actress – a profession where most people never earn enough money to make a living with, who has won Oscars, Golden Globes and Academy Awards and who received an honorary degree from Harvard University. She has three children and is married to a wonderful husband. Why should such a woman be insecure? Yet, she is.
Dannis Manning, CEO of a company with annual revenues of more than $7 billion also said he felt insecure, and that he is driven by fear of failure.
So it really is true: emotional insecurity can work in your favor. But you have to use it the right way. Stop avoiding situations which make you insecure, but instead embrace them and let insecurity be the fire that fuels your engine.
Paralyzing insecurity only harms you. You need to be able to relax in the face of insecurity so that you can make the right decision, and then act on it – even if it’s frightening.
Hypnosis For Emotional Insecurity
With hypnosis for emotional insecurity you can train your mind to be calm in stressful situations, and instead of avoiding frightening situations, you can enjoy the thrill and go for it – with confidence.