Do you often feel stressed out?
Well, here’s some advice by Tony Robbins, one of the most influential people in the field of personal development alive today.
He says that most of your stress simply comes from thinking about too many things at once.
And if you’re very stressed, chances are that you have a lot of things that you would like to get done – but haven’t.
What’s the reason for it?
Most people say they simply don’t have enough time.
Or they aren’t capable of doing it.
But in the end, it’s neither of these.
The real cause for not doing things is to be found in the way we think about things.
So let’s stick with the example Tony is using in the video: exercise motivation.
If you’re not motivated to exercise, then you probably think about working out in some way that’s similar to the guy in the audience.
You think about the painful and negative things that are associated with exercising.
And when you think about these things that make you feel bad and you have a whole lot of other things that you could do that make you feel good – well, you don’t need to have a degree in psychology to figure out which one you will probably do.
You’re probably thinking about the process, and not the outcome or result that you want.
And thinking of process (what is required to achieve something) is usually a pain in the a$$, because it often takes a lot of steps to get something done.
It’s kind of like that old, and not so funny, but nonetheless true joke: How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.
Basically what is stopping the guy in the audience from being motivated to exercise is that he’s trying to eat the elephant in one piece, rather than in many smaller bites, and that is overwhelming to him, it seems too much, and that’s why he goes: “I will do this later”.
And this turns into a kind of moving time-frame, because he will always do it later.
Now another way how you can reduce your motivation to exercise if you look at what needs to be done in too much detail.
So for example, if you think: “Well, I really want to exercise, but you know, I would have to find a gym, and in order to find a gym, I would have to turn on my computer and go online, and then I would have to type something like ‘gym in my neighbourhood’ into Google, and then I would have to look at all these websites and compare the pricing and conditions and facilities, and I’d have to look at forums and other places to find reviews about these places and compare them with the notes I took from the website, and then I should go to make an appointment with my doctor for a checkup first to find out if my knee is going to be ok, so I gotta find my address book and find his number there and make an appointment, but right now I’m not sure when will be a good time for me to make that appointment, and it’s going to cost money, and…”
So basically, totally overthinking things, thinking about every tiny little step that’s involved.
And the ask that same person: “Well, what does it take to eat?”
And the person’s probably gonna reply: “Oh, let’s just order in!”
Now even ordering in, you know, you gotta find the number, you gotta find the menu, then you have to look at all these different menu options and decide which one is right, and then you gotta calculate the price to make sure you have enough money in your pocket, and you have to read the fine print to make sure there won’t be any hidden charges applied, and then you have to talk on the phone with a person whom you don’t really understand, you know how it is with these places, and…
So you could at eating the same way – you could totally overthink it and break it down into thousands steps that you think about.
But you’re not, and that’s why it is so easy to order in.
But it’s not because it’s inherently easy, it’s easy because of the way you think of it.
And if you think of other things that way too, then other things (like exercising) will become easier too.
If you think about starting to work out like that, what do you think are the chances of you actually doing it?
You see, if you want to exercise, but you’re not doing it – then it’s not because you can’t, it’s simply because you’re not motivated enough. And not being motivated enough simply means not having a good enough reason.
So the formula to success in life really goes like this:
- know what you want
- have enough good reasons to follow through
So if you want to exercise, what are your good enough reasons to follow through?