How To Stop Complaining
Complaining too much is a behaviour that can get out of hand. Sure, there might be many things wrong, and if nobody speaks out against this, then probably nothing will change.
If the people would not protest, politicians would probably fill up their own pockets more than taking care of the country. If the people would not complain, companies would probably sell all kinds of low quality products for inflated prices.
If employees would not complain, bosses would probably let them work overtime without extra pay. If bosses would not complain,employees would probably come late to work, stay during lunchbreak too long, and leave work too early.
Complaining is important. It is important to speak out against things that go wrong. And sometimes it is necessary to avoid being taken advantage of. But in the end, complaining can become an addiction.
The more you complain, the more you focus on finding what is wrong. And in this world, there are more things wrong than what could keep you busy for the rest of your life, doing nothing but complaining. But in the end – is a life spent complaining a life worth living?
At some point, we need to learn not just to see the bad things, but also to appreciate and be grateful for what is good and right. And there is a lot of that in this world too.
When you complain, it doesn’t make you happy, but instead leaves you feeling down and depressed and angry. And what’s more – other people will start avoiding you. Because nobody needs a “downer”.
It is challenging enough to keep your spirits up in this world, and if you spend your time with someone who drives all your attention to what’s wrong and broken, you will not feel inspired or happy. So for the sake of yourself and the people around you – learn to put complaining in its proper place. Do not just let it be your normal modus operandi.
Instead, be able to make a conscious choice at any given time whether complaining is the behaviour that will lead to the outcome you want, or whether there is a better behaviour. It can happen quite easily that one small complaint turns into an avalanche of dissatisfaction. And that avalanche is a lot harder to stop than the little complaint. So do not let it get too far in the first place.
Hypnosis can help you to gain conscious control of your complaining. Because it communicates directly with the subconscious part of your mind – the part where habits are creates and enforced in your day-to-day life.
There is no doubt that complaining has a lot of positive functions.
For example, if you are with a group of people and want to start a conversation – it is a lot easier to make a negative statement, because the other people will respond to it a lot more willingly and often than if you make a positive statement. For example, if you wait in line at a government agency for two hours, making a comment about how ineffective they do their job is a much easier icebreaker than many other things.
Yet, in order to really connect with people, you need to find better ways of starting and leading conversations. People ultimately are attracted to things and people that make them feel good. And you can not do that by complaining all the time.