Comments on: Getting Over Unrequited Love

By: Bob Walsh

Bob Walsh — Fri, 12 Oct 2012 01:45:01 +0000

Hi Kat, yeah, it's really time to go, and it's a terrible situation to be stuck in something like this. At least you realize and admit that you're part of this too and acknowledge your own responsibility in it. I wish you the strength to get to move through this. Here's something that could help you to escape an emotionally abusive relationship, and also a hypnosis download that makes ending a relationship easier and another one that helps you to get the courage to leave an abusive relationship. Another thing thing that you might ask yourself is: Why do I allow someone to treat me like that? Why do I stay in a situation like that? The obvious answer is of course that you love him and are afraid of losing him, but there might be another answer if you look even deeper than that. I'm really glad that I'm not in a situation like yours - it must be incredibly difficult, and the advice that you'll get is mostly from people who don't really know what it's like, or who tell you things you already know yourself. But I wish you that in the midst of all this, you still find a way back to happiness. Best wishes, Bob

By: kat bernal

kat bernal — Thu, 11 Oct 2012 03:07:42 +0000

This is completely my situation, but its as close as I could find. Its good to know I’m not alone. I’ve been on a relationship with this Guy for 1yr 3 months. With 2 very short break ups in between. He controls me he sets rules for me. And yet there is one thing I ask him not to do he does it anyway and any time I confront him for it he threatens to kick me out of our new apartment or that he’ll leave me. Sometimes when he gets mad for me confronting him he says things like he doesn’t want to be with me anymore. But then he comes and apologizes a million times at once. I know I deserve more someone who will support my life goals. I feel like he’s just with me now out of pity but no matter what I do I CANT STOP LOVING HIM. No matter how many times I try I can’t seem to care more for myself and my well being. Every day I live in fear of losing him. I am a good woman very devotes and I feel VERY PATHETIC for letting myself suffer like this. I love him more than anything and even though he puts me through hell I can’t atop myself from loving him… I can’t force myself to be strong enough to leave. I am so in love with someone who I believe is beginning to no longer love me.

By: Hypnotist

Hypnotist — Thu, 16 Aug 2012 02:52:36 +0000

Hi Kirsten
thank you for sharing your story here so openly.
It’s a really difficult place you’re in right now. The good thing is: you’ve already taken the first step and are actively looking for a way out of this.
Regarding your question: hypnosis is not a magic pill. I can’t tell you that you just listen to the hypnosis sessions and all of the sudden everything is easy and you have confidence and can break up with him, or change him.
Think of hypnosis as an additional layer that you add to working on yourself – kind of like an amplifier that makes building confidence, become more independent and boosting self-esteem easier and faster. But you still will need to work on it.
My suggestion is you just try it out. I’m sure it will help you, but don’t take my word for it. The hypnosis downloads we offer all come with a 90 day guarantee, and if you feel it didn’t help you enough, you will get all your money back, no questions asked and no hard feelings. We offer these downloads because we want to make it easier for people like you to make the change they want to make easier, and have a better life.
Listen to it regularly, ideally once a day – think of it as a kind of “workout for your mind”. And if you have further questions, let me know please.
Kind regards,
Bob

By: Kirsten P.

Kirsten P. — Tue, 07 Aug 2012 14:10:24 +0000

I can totally sympathize with this article, and it is nice to be able to realize I am not alone. My husband and I are going on our two years soon, and we’ve been together for about 3 1/2 years. He is a narcissist, and all I do is cater to him, and many times due to our age gap, he likes to refer to me as acting as a child or a brat using the quote “If you act as a child I’m going to treat you like one.” I have major separation anxiety to him, and have crazy thoughts wondering if he is talking to his ex wife when I’m not around, since they have kids together, he knows it bothers me so he does not talk to her around me…when I am away from him I annoy him so bad with my separation issues and I go into a whole depression state of crying where mentally I cannot handle being around anyone and start my nervous tics because I can’t handle life at that moment, wondering what he is doing, why he doesn’t want to talk or text to me, (he will say I need to grow up and handle my emotions or I’m going to go I don’t need this right now)(This is my first love/longest relationship)I need to realize the way he loved me in the beginning, he will never be affectionate again, he just is not in love with me, and I need to wake up and realize he will never change. I need to know so badly, because I am so weak, I have never even had the courage to take a break with him, I need to know what can hypnosis really do for someone with 0 confidence now from being with someone so belittling, can it help give you your lost confidence, can it make you stronger, can it make you realize more that he will never change and I deserve better? I am so scared of the thought of never having him in my life, I am so afraid and trouble with loss. It’s such a sad story, and it’s just another day and another broken heart.

By: Torn

Torn — Mon, 16 Jul 2012 00:45:28 +0000

I have a similar situation as the above stated. I met guy, Ryan, in college( I was 17), we were friends with benefits, but they were his benefits(sounds like he’s a jerk, but truly I don’t feel like he was or is). We talked on the phone for hours for months but were never official. I loved him and thought we were soul mates and openly expressed this to him, but he never told me back. We decided to lose our virginity to each other, but in the heat of the moment he said something about another girl and I decided that was not good enough for my first time and told him that and left. I then met my now husband, Adam, and I cheated (no sex but fooled around) on him with Ryan three months into our exclusive relationship. I told Adam everything the day after and he decided to stay with me. That was the end of the Ryan for me…even though I thought I loved him more than Adam and would have chosen him(for reasons only I know). I moved on because Adam treated me like I deserve. Adam and my sex life was horrible emotionally for me a few years and I cried frequently after because I felt like it should have been Ryan. Don’t get me wrong I love my husband more than words can express, but somehow I felt more connected to Ryan. 5 years pass and Ryan and I talk on the phone once and a while because we work for the same company in the same department, but different locations. We never even mention we know who each other is. 3 years after that…One day after we talk on the phone he emails me at work and asks how I’ve been and if I remember the past. Of course I stupidly respond and it turns to a bunch of emails. He’s married 1 and a half years and has a 6 month old. I have been married 2 years at this point. He tells me he may have made a poor choice (i dont know with what because he is so vague) and doesn’t want to think that about the past and wants to make amends with me. He states that if he waited (I don’t know for what) I would have already been married and we wouldn’t have worked in the past because he was too immature. I agree to meet him, we talk and hug and agree on closure, but he was unwilling to tell me an answer to a question I had, “Did he sincerely care about me or love me and think he made a mistake now?” Now I feel like the wound of unrequited love feeling is ripped back open. He openly tells me he “still feels something”but wont because it is wrong to do under God and to his wife(who he will never leave). I feel so confused and hurt and like I may hurt my husbands feelings if I talk to him about this. I don’t know what Ryan wants from me and states his marriage is fine. I still love him and even would be happy as his friend and he has told me he was really sorry for the heartache he caused and I told him I forgive him but don’t know what to do now as it is too late. I can not leave Adam after 8 years in a relationship, but feel like I could be hurting him (or myself) with my “wound” from Ryan. It is good to know I am not alone with my heartache and was glad to read others’ stories. I hope they can inspire me and others to move on.

By: Hypnotist

Hypnotist — Sun, 01 Jul 2012 11:38:23 +0000

Hi Crossroads,
thanks for sharing your experience here. I understand this is a really difficult situation.
One thing that makes it even tougher is that you want to (and have very good reason to) maintain contact with him. It would be a lot easier if you could avoid that, but that doesn’t mean you have to. It just means you have to work harder on yourself.
Now what do I mean when I say work harder on yourself?
In this case it’s about changing the way you feel, and that requires you to do a lot of “mental exercises”. I really highly encourage you to use the hypnosis download for unrequited love at least three times a week to change the way you feel and make all the mental exercises more effective.
One example for a mental exercise to simply write down the way you feel about him, and the way you want to feel about him in the future. Now it’s important that you approach this with the right expectations: all these mental exercises should be repeated many times. Kind of like going to the gym – you don’t expect a sixpack from one work out, right? What this exercise does is help you to disassociate yourself from your romantic feelings towards him, because it engages a different part of your brain when you verbalize and write out these things.
There are many more mental exercises, but my suggestion is to try this in combination with the hypnosis for unrequited love and you’ll see your feelings towards him change. Daily, for at least 4 weeks. If you don’t notice any change after that, we can try another technique.
Hope you’ll use this.
Sending you strength,
Bob

By: crossroads

crossroads — Sun, 01 Jul 2012 10:44:15 +0000

It’s great reading about other peoples experiences and knowing that im not alone. The worst thing about my situation is that i am in love with my daughters father with whom i have never been in a relationship with. We get along great and he sees us as good friends, but i feel much much more for him. He is leterally on my mind from the moment i wake up untill the moment i fall asleep as well as in my dreams. I feel as though i am infected by him and every action i make is with him in mind. I have told him how i feel and he has made it clear that he does not feel the same.
I hav no idea how to change the way i feel about him. He’s everywhere i look and the worst thing is that i feel like we we’re meant to be together. As if we were soulmates. I need to find a way out of this because i don’t want to push him away for our daughters sake. But my feelngs are so strong feel physicall ill with it all. Please help!

By: Hypnotist

Hypnotist — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 11:14:52 +0000

Hi Brilynn,
thanks so much for sharing your story – and also for sharing that my article helped you. It makes me really happy to know that it helped you to feel better, and maybe pass this a bit easier. I understand it’s still so difficult.
What you did was very noble of you, and with a heart like that you’ll be able to find the kind of guy that deserves a girl like you.
this guy will be a friend for life, and the fact that you honour the special relationship you have with him shows that you’re a very mature person. I wish you all the best. You’re still young and you have so many beautiful years and moments ahead of you, even if the thought of that guy makes your heart sink right now. Try to keep yourself open to receiving happiness with open arms when it comes your way, and I hope you’ll have a really bright and joyful relationship with another guy.

By: Brilynn

Brilynn — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 08:13:18 +0000

It took me a very long time before I even came to terms with my true feelings. I’ve known the guy I’m in love with since we were 3 years old. I am 19 now. We had crushes on each other when we were little according to our moms. My family ended up moving away, so we were not close for several years. Later, we moved back near where we had lived and he and I ended up in school together again. We became friends again and were kind of close at different points through high school. I tried to convince myself I only liked him because it felt secure since I’d known him for so long. I now know that wasn’t the case. I would try to ignore him, but found it impossible. Everything about him attracted me to him. Not just him physically, but his personality. Especially how much he loves his mother and how important as a friend he makes me feel.
He and I both have been through some very hard times and have tried to help each other through. About a year ago, he went through a really hard time and lost many friends. I never felt like I could tell him how I feel about him because I didn’t want him to feel awkward around me and feel like he’d lost another friend. I feel like I made a sacrifice, but that it was the right thing to do. It still hurts, but I know that one day, I’ll be okay. I know he considers me to be a great friend. I’m beginning to believe that that is enough. Your article really helped me.

By: Hypnotist

Hypnotist — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 14:33:45 +0000

Hi Lara,
thanks for sharing. Yes, when you constantly see the person you love it makes things even harder. But believe me it’s better to gain clarity than to be in a uncertain limbo-state where you don’t know what you’re dealing with. Avoidance can stifle your personal development and make you “get stuck”. In the long-term it’s worse than being confronted with the negative news of unrequited love.
Be strong,
Bob