Whether you want to have a child or not is your personal choice. Yet, when you tell people that you don’t want to have kids – especially if you’re a woman in her 30’s or 40’s, the reaction you get from them is often as if something is wrong with you. “Why don’t you want to have kids? They’re wonderful!”
And you might even agree with them – not wanting to have kids doesn’t mean that you don’t like kids. You can still find kids cute, adorable and amazing, but not want to have a kid for yourself. That’s your personal choice.
However, oftentimes friends and family will try to convince you that you should have children. They might question your motives or even make you feel guilty about it.
So if you find yourself in that situation, realize that there is nothing wrong with not wanting to have kids. It’s perfectly find. It really is your choice. And making the conscious decision not to have kids is a much more mature and positive thing to do than having a kid just because it is expected of you.
Each of us has her own life, our own path, our own personal legend that we need to pursue. There is no “right way” to do it – other than listening to your heart, and using your own head.
What’s good and right for one person isn’t necessarily good and right for the another person.
A cactus needs a lot of sunlight, hot temperatures and a little water. A tea plant on the other hand needs moderate temperatures, not too hot, and plenty of water. So it’s not that hot weather is “good” or “bad” – it’s how it affects the things around it.
In the same way, having a kid is not good or bad – it’s about how the kid will affect the parents and people around it.
And let’s face it: there is no shortage of people on this world. So not putting more people into the world isn’t doing the earth a bad service. In fact, there are plenty of people who don’t get the love and attention they need to prosper and flourish – and you can still shower people with love and attention, even if they’re not your own kids. That’s a good thing.
However, some part of you might still feel regrets – after all, at some point there’s no going back on the kids or no kids choice.
You don’t need to feel bad about it. In fact, you owe it to yourself and others to feel good about it, and use the positive energy you get from having made the right choice to make the world a better place, in your own way, be it big or small.
But even if things work out in your mind – emotionally, you might still be distressed at times. Why is that? Because our emotions don’t obey the rules of logic or rational thinking. When you learn to talk to yourself in a different way and communicate with yourself in a more positive and encouraging manner, you can slowly but surely improve your emotional wellbeing too. And one of the fastest and easiest way to do so is with the help of a hypnosis download, that you can listen to whenever you feel you need an emotional lift-up and a little “psychological protection” against feelings of guilt, shame or remorse.