You probably should eat healthier. Exercise more. Spend more time focused, less time distracted. Do more to center yourself, rather than be swept away by the avalanche of tasks that’s running over you every day.
You should, should, should…
Most people should all over themselves.
There are lots of things that you know would be good to do, but for some reason you’re not doing them enough.
Some of these reasons are real reasons and some are just plain excuses (if you’re honest with yourself).
How Do You Go From Should Do To Done?
That’s the hard part.
And it’s not really what you need to start with.
The first step is to go from should do to doing.
Once you’ve made the first step, you’ve built a little bit of momentum, and already rapidly increased the chances of getting it done.
But even once you’ve started, it’s not about getting it done. It’s not about finishing it. It’s about doing the second step.
And the next one.
And the next one.
Till you’re there.
Some steps you won’t feel like taking.
But you take them anyway. One at a time. You just don’t stop. You go ahead.
Everybody wants to rise up, get to the top.
But nobody likes to walk up all these steps that lead there when they’re tired.
But that’s how you get from should to done.
The fancy word for all of this is personal productivity.
And even though most people would answer that question with no, ask yourself: is it possible to hypnotize myself to become more productive?
I’d challenge you to answer this question with yes and give it a try.
You really have nothing to lose, and a lot to gain, like thousands of people before you have.
And what’s your alternative?
The thing about shoulds is that, if you’ve been shoulding all over yourself for several years already, the things you’ve done so far really aren’t working. And it’s time to do something differently.
There’s nothing worse than looking back on wasted years, regretting that you haven’t done what you know would be best sooner.
Wasted years when you didn’t know better, when you were foolish. That’s ok. We all have those, and we file them under lessons learned.
But wasted years when you did know better, but you just didn’t do? Years spent where you should all over yourself?
Ouch. Ouch. Ouch. Those hurt. Really hurt.
There is some really well-meant advice on the internet for those who want to get out of the “should-phase”.
Some goes like this:
Replace should with choose!
So instead of saying: I should stop smoking, you now say: I choose to stop smoking.
And these kinds of linguistic changes can be helpful and positive.
But they’re not really enough. Trust me, I’ve been there, done that.