Do you wonder whether you sometimes are an attention seeking personality? Getting attention is a fundamental human need – lack of attention from others deprives us of something that is necessary for human happiness.
But there are good ways and bad ways of making sure that this need gets fulfilled. Let us examine this a little closer.
It is true that it is a lot easier to get other people’s attention when we engage in negative behaviors, rather than in positive ones. Good behavior hardly ever gets noticed the way bad behavior does.
The class clown, the naughty kid in school – they do get the attention, even though it can be negative attention.
Some people dress up in offensive or weird ways, because it gives them the attention they crave – even though it makes it more difficult to really connect with people and build friendships.
Some people with an attention seeking personality say inappropriate or offensive things and are very provocative, but only because it gets them attention.
Attention is like a drug that our minds can get hooked on, and just like every other junky, we will engage in more and more outrageous and even harmful behaviors to get our daily dose.
The simple fact that you are reading this also shows that you are a mature person, and that you realize that nobody – including yourself -is perfect. It shows that you are in fact willing to do something about it, to improve your own life, even if that means facing an unpleasant reality.
And there are many things you can do to stop seeking attention by other people. One thing is to analyze and find out why you have this strong desire for attention. But honestly, there are so many people who spend so much time and energy trying to find out why something is wrong with them, without getting any closer to a solution.
Instead, they often end up cementing their problem, subconsciously justifying it because they now have good reasons to show for why they behave that way.
It is, in my professional opinion, a lot more constructive to simply let go of the reason and search for the solution.
When you start building stronger friendships and relationships, you practice the game of giving and getting attention in a much more harmonious and productive way – and in a way that is a lot more emotionally fulfilling.
So actively seeking out other people and trying to find common interests and causes is a much better way to connect with others, rather than trying to stand out from the crowd just for the purpose of standing out so that you attract all the attention.
Also, realize that your own worth is not determined by how many people take notice of you. That is one of the main problems that people with an attention seeking personality have.
But finally, attention seeking behavior is such a deeply-ingrained trait of your personality, that all these steps to overcome attention seeking can take many years before you really are free of this behavior.
Hypnosis is a way to accelerate this process, so that you can fast-forward your personal development and become the human being you really wish to be a lot faster – and free yourself from the craving for attention that makes you do and say things you wouldn’t do and say otherwise.