Overcoming Self Pity
Unfortunately what most people don’t understand is that you don’t want to wallow in self pity. It’s not something that you enjoy doing. It’s something that you just can’t help.
Even if you try to stop pitying yourself – for some reason, these thoughts and feelings always come back to you.
You real you wants to move on with your life, wants to change the way you think and feel, wants to take positive action and make things better.
But some part of yourself somehow keeps you attached to feeling sorry for yourself.
“Poor me, poor me, pour me another drink” goes an old saying. And there is more truth to it than is apparent at first glance. Because self-pity really is almost like an addiction, just like alcoholism. You are addicted to feeling sorry for yourself, and if you try to stop it, you try in vain. It has gotten out of control.
The bad thing is: as long as you pity yourself, you are unable to take responsibility for your own life. You are unable to take responsibility for your own actions. You are unable to take responsibility for the results that you get.
And as long as you are unable to take responsibility, you are also unable to really do something about things, to take charge and take things into your own hands.
Because when you pity yourself, you essentially give away your power. You admit that you are a victim – a victim of circumstances, a victim of chance or bad luck, a victim of other people, a victim of how bad your parents raised you, a victim of an unfair world. And victims don’t get stuff done – victims let things happen to them.
Whatever happened in the past – it’s over. Now it’s time to get your act together. Overcoming self pity is the first and crucial step in doing so.
But how can you get into a position of power from a position of powerlessness?
That’s the challenge.
Fortunately, there is a way.
Affirmations can help you to regain conscious control over your life. You can stop self pity by telling yourself things like “All that I am now, all that I have experienced, all the failures and setbacks help me to have the wisdom and strength to move on and better my life.”
But the thing with affirmations is that they take a lot of repetitions to work. Literally thousands and thousands of repetitions – and only if you repeat them focused and concentrated, while visualizing yourself in a resource state of mind. It takes months, or even years to get the change you want.
However, you can amplify the effectiveness of affirmations by turning them into subliminal suggestions. They essentially pass by your critical thinking filter and seep directly into your subconscious mind. This is a much more powerful and profound way to turn negative beliefs into positives – and it’s a lot faster too.
You can overcome self pity once and for all by making the effort of listening to subliminal recordings repeatedly.