The death of a mother is one of the most painful experiences we experience in life. We knew since long time that the day would come – one day – but when it happens, it still hits you hard and unprepared. She’s been there for you from the day you were born. No matter what kind of relationship you had with her – she was with you all your life and knew and loved you in ways know one else did.
Now that she’s gone, she leaves a huge empty space in your heart that is hard to fill. It’s important that you acknowledge and accept your emotions and feelings. Allow the emotions to flow through you and express them – cry when you feel like it, allow yourself to experience the pain, sadness, regret or whatever comes up. Yet, at the same time it’s important not to get stuck in it and move on with your own life.
Working your way through this loss, with all the pain and suffering, can be hard, even if you have the support of loved ones. It takes a lot of energy, and if you still have to keep up with everyday duties and responsibilities, it’s almost inevitable that you’ll be overwhelmed and burned out.
Sometimes you might miss her intensely and wish so much that you could just spend a couple of more moments with her, to have her back. Maybe tell her something you never had the chance to say. (Most sons and daughters have something they never told their parents that they’ve always put off, because they waited for the right moment… until one day it’s too late. Don’t blame yourself for it – chances are that in some way, your mother new it already).
There are many stages of grief that you have to work through, and each of these stages presents it’s own challenges. Some kind of guidance to lead you through this might prove helpful.
The day your mother died is a day you’ll never forget. It will forever have changed your life. For many, it feels like the world as they knew it has come to an end.
It’s important that you learn to put things in perspective and gain some control over your emotions. It’s all part of the big circle of birth and death, coming and leaving. It’s the way things are supposed to be – even if it doesn’t feel like that at all. But accepting this reality, and learning to live with it and embracing life as it is today, that is what matters now.
You can spend the rest of your life looking back at the things that where and could have been. Or you can take all the experiences that you’ve been through and use them to lead a better life.
Hypnosis can help you – because it’s a powerful psychological tool in calming down out-of-control emotions. It allows you to tap into the source of your inner wisdom and strength and master all the emotional challenges that you face right now. And it will help you to recharge your energy levels when dealing with grief.