Thanks to advances in positive psychology, we now know that optimists have better lives than pessimists. But how to be optimistic? In this article you will find out how to overcome pessimism and build a more positive attitude.
Pessimists vs Optimists
There are a few traits that differentiate pessimists from optimists. Pessimists believe that bad events are their fault, will last a long time, and undermine everything, whereas optimists don’t dwell of feelings of guilt but instead use their emotional energy to move on, view the problem as isolated and temporarily.
Scientific studies have shown that optimists are healthier, have stronger immune systems, live longer lives, earn more money, are more fulfilled in their workplace, have healthier relationships with other people and longer lasting marriages.
So it really is a worthwhile endeavor to become more optimistic.
But how do you actually do that?
If you’re not a natural born optimist, then you have to proactively practice positivity.
Here are some simple steps to train your mind to think positively.
Positive quotes can become a part of your everyday mental diet. Maybe you don’t have a lot of positive people around you, and in this case surrounding yourself – mentally – with positive people who say positive things can be very uplifting.
Transforming your own mindset is difficult – but that’s what friends and family is for. Recruit an “optimism partner” – tell that person that you want to develop optimism and ask them for help. This means simply reminding you that you want to be optimistic, and helping you to realize when you say something pessimistic, suggesting you how to change it.
There are so many songs about broken hearts and what’s wrong with the world – but if you want to be optimistic, then consciously listen to some fun, optimistic songs to cheer you up when you feel down.
Pretend As If
Even if you don’t feel like it: just act as if you would be optimistic. Hold your head up high. Wear a smile on your face. Straighten up that back. In a convincing voice, tell yourself: “It’s gonna be fine, I’m going to find a way to make things turn out well.”
It’s okay if you don’t really believe that or feel like it: just act like it. Imagine being an actor in a movie, playing a role. The thing is: if you lead with your physiology strong enough, your psychology will eventually follow.
There are lots of crime stories, books about the end of the world, the collapse of the economy, horror stories, thrillers, and so on. And while they may make for great entertainment, they don’t exactly help you to become more optimistic. Here are some optimistic book titles to get you started:
- Chicken Soup for the Soul: Think Positive: 101 Inspirational Stories about Counting Your Blessings and Having a Positive Attitude
- Life’s Golden Ticket: An Inspirational Novel
- Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life
- The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work
Random Acts of Kindness
Do nice things for other people (complete strangers and friends). Do something that puts a smile on their face and makes them happy. The positivity you create in them often will bounce back to you like an emotional echo.
There are literally hundreds of books on optimism, positive psychology, personal development and self-help and millions of websites. If you’re confused by the contradictory advice you find there – then this audio hypnosis download is the right choice for you. All you need to do is to listen with intention to the hypnotic suggestions which you will receive.
Hypnosis can help you to feel different because you think different. Please do a little exercise of imagination now: Fast forward a few weeks from now and your mindset will have changed. You will be more optimistic, have a better outlook on life and a more positive mental attitude. When something negative happens during a day, you will still deal with it – but you won’t get emotionally hung up on it. Instead, you move on quickly, keeping a positive emotional state and others will enjoy being around you because you light up their day.