If you’re afraid to be alone, set aside some time for yourself to read this article. It will help you to find out why you’re afraid of being alone, and what you can do to overcome that fear. There’s even a medical term for that: autophobia. But knowing expert-speech isn’t what you’re here for: you’re here because you want to loose your fear of being lonely.
Why are we afraid to be alone in the first place? Well, when we were small babies, being alond would have meant death: we’d weren’t able to feed ourselves at that early age, we dependent on others to take care of us. If you leave a small baby alone, it will die. So no wonder that people have a fear of being alone.
When you are afraid of being alone, you need to ask yourself these questions:
- Do I take care of my self in a loving way – not just physically, but also emotionally, spiritually and financially?
- Do I take full responsibility for my own life?
Many people are looking for someone else to take care of them in some form. For some people, they want to have someone who makes them feel good. Some people want to have someone who makes sure they have a place to sleep and food and things they want. Some people want to have someone to make them feel worthy, to confirm their self-esteem. There are hundreds of different things that we might “want” from another person.
Ultimately, these are all things that you should be taking care of yourself. You should be kind enough to yourself to bolster up your self-esteem. You should be able to make your own living. You should be able to treat yourself in a way that makes you feel happy.
If you start to do that, you lose the fear of being alone. But the first step then is to identify what exactly it is that you depend on from others. And that’s something that can be really hard to figure out, because these are usually things that are buried somewhere deep down in our subconscious mind, and we aren’t consciously aware. It’s not as if we can point our finger to one issue and say: “Well, this is it, this is what I’m ‘getting’ from being with another person, and that’s why I’m afraid to be alone.” It’s not clear for ourselves to see that.
So what you need then is kind of a “psychological detector” – something that can help you to pinpoint the issue, and in the next step generate mental strategies for you to take care of that issue yourself, instead of depending on someone else to do it for you. You need something that works directly with your subconsciousness: hypnosis.
Just try using a hypnosis download and listen to it every night before you go to sleep. That way the hypnotic suggestions will work their way into your subconscious mind.