Letting go of guilt
Letting go of guilt is not easy. But there are ways to make it a lot easier. It is not something that will happen overnight – but it is not something that you will have to cope with for years to come. The biggest challenge in managing feelings of guilt is simply that people don’t know how to do it effectively – and that is because nobody ever taught them. This site can help you to transform yourself into a better you, through the help of guilt, and in the end result to resolve it so that you are free from guilt.
Whatever it is that you feel guilty about – realize that feeling guilty won’t make things better. Oftentimes we feel responsible for things that went wrong, even though it wasn’t really our mistake. But even if you did something wrong – knowingly or unknowingly – it is something that happened in the past. And the good thing about the past is that it’s over.
There’s only one reason why you should go back into the past: to learn from it. But you shouldn’t let the past get in the way of your future, and you shouldn’t allow it to take away from your present. Life is an incredible gift, and we all have a lot to learn – cherish it.
If you feel guilty even though you are not, but you just can’t get rid of that feeling, then resolving the attachment to these emotions is the best thing that can happen to you.
But if you feel guilty because you are indeed responsible, then detaching yourself from these emotions is also something positive: because it frees up a lot of your mental, emotional and physical energy and empowers you to put things right, to make up for it in the best way possible. You see, you can’t make the world a better place by beating yourself up. That’s focusing on yourself, being self-centered. If you want to make the world a better place, or do something for another person, then you need positive energy, lots of it, and you need to find a way to put it to use for others. And that is what letting go of guilt is all about.
All of what you have heard and read so far might make sense logically – and chances are, you already knew it. But the thing with guilt is: it’s not a logical thing. Nobody chooses consciously to feel guilty. It’s something that we are compelled to by a force we can’t quite control: the part of ourselves that manages emotions.
Neuroscientists nowadays know that the emotional center of our brain is the limbic system. This part of our brain is a much older areal than the neocortex, where higher thinking skills and logical reasoning happen. And it can really take charge of our brain – it has the power to override reasonable arguments with the fire of emotions.
With hypnosis, you program your brain to positively adjust your emotional responses to certain thoughts. When you are in the comfortably relaxed state of hypnosis, you can give your subconscious mind suggestions that can resolve feelings of guilt and free up the emotional energy that is required to make things right.
A recent study1 has shown that women suffer from feelings of guilt a lot more than men.
There are also different kinds of guilt feelings, and the most common one is the feeling we have when we have caused someone else harm, which is called empathetic guilt.
And then there is anxious-aggressive guilt which is most common in people who have been raised in a blame-imposing environment, and who often come out of very strict families or institutions.
Guilt is a powerful psychological force – and because it is so powerful it has often been abused and misused throughout history by people and institutions who wanted to exert power over others.
A brilliant example of how guilt can be engineered and cause havoc on a person’s life is this very entertaining, but nonetheless education video by Derren Brown, where he gets an innocent men to confess to murder, by using psychological methods, NLP anchoring techniques, stimulus response conditioning and hypnosis.
Think about it – if feelings of guilt can convince an innocent man to confess to murder, what kind of damage can guilt do in your own life?
So can hypnosis help you to permanently get rid of guilt?
The answer is yes – but it’s a process where you are actively involved in. Listen to the hypnosis audio repeatedly and intently, ideally before going to sleep as this is the time of the day when your subconscious mind is most susceptible to positive hypnotic suggestions.
- Etxebarria, I., Ortiz, M. J., Conejero, S. y Pascual, A. Intensity of habitual guilt in men and women: Differences in interpersonal sensitivity and the tendency towards anxious-aggressive guilt. Spanish Journal of Psychology, 2009; 12 (2): 540-554 [↩]