Be More Manly
When we grow up we learn all kinds of things about how we should behave. We learn it from our parents, we learn it from our extended family, from friends, from television, from school… But many of the things we learn conflict with one another.
Once upon a time, there was a clear code of conduct that we could follow. Now, it can be confusing, because there are so many different ways of behaving. But as a man, then you should behave like one. Most men in our society should learn how to be more manly. If you’re not manly, nobody will take you serious and you’ll end up with less than you deserve in life.
Gender roles are being more complicated in the 21st century than they have to be. So much so, that many of us aren’t even sure anymore what “being manly” really is all about.
To be more manly is not about being rude – you still can (and should) be a gentleman. Be be a gentleman from a position of strength and power, not from a position of weakness and servitude. Figuring out how to be more masculine is all about balancing different parts of your personality: gentleness, as well as strength. Kindness, as well a dominance. Compassion, as well as competitiveness.
A Biological Difference Society Can’t Override
There’s a biological difference in your body that makes being unmanly just plain wrong. I know that’s a harsh statement. I know many people will argue with me that there is nothing wrong with having a feminine side. But the truth is, your body is designed to be masculine, just a womans body is designed to be feminine. You have much higher levels of testosterone in your body.
If you deny yourself the right to express your masculinity, you’re working against your own biology. And that’s not a good thing to do.
One of the most important characteristics you want to take on is confidence, inner strength. Confidence is not about showing off or boasting, it’s about being proud of who you are and believing in yourself.
A real man knows what he wants, and he’s comfortable expressing it.
You also want to be respectful towards others – both men and women. But before you can respect others, you have to respect yourself. Only when you have that kind of respect for yourself, only then you’re able to give it to others. Respect from a person that doesn’t respect himself is worth nothing, and that’s what it is perceived like too. People usually have fine enough antennas to determine whether your respect is genuine or not. There are a lot of men who don’t open the door for a woman not because they aren’t respectful, but because they are too insecure for a small gesture like that. And sadly enough, many men haven’t been tought how to show their respect in appropriate ways.
Being more manly is not about pumping irons, drinking beer or picking a fight. It’s about attitude. There are a lot of pumped up bodybuilders that aren’t manly – they need those balloon-muscles because they feel so insecure on the inside. That’s not what you want. You want real masculinity. And the only place to find it is in your mind.
But changing such deep-rooted attitudes about yourself is not easy. It’s about how you perceive yourself and how you think of yourself. That’s something you’ve “trained” all your life. Changing it all by yourself is not an easy task.
That’s where the power of hypnosis kicks in. Because hypnosis allows you to effectively “reprogram” your brain and put in a new attitude. If you’re willing to give it a try, then I guarantee you that other people will treat you more respectfully soon.
Even the words you use in your language will change – word analysis studies have shown that masculine men use more articles (a, an, the) in their speech. And do you often say things like: “I think…”, “I believe…”, “It seems…” when you make a statement? Well, that’s a figure of speech much more common among women. Women even use the word “I” much more than they use the word “we”.1You can try to change these aspects of your language consciously, but with hypnosis to become more masculine, it becomes something that just happens automatically.
- James W. Pennebaker, The Secret Life of Pronouns: What Our Words Say About Us 2011, Bloomsbury Press